If anyone ever breaks a date with you during the summertime (or just because it’s plain great weather), there’s a simple answer.
It’s because they don’t like you!
Joking. … They MAY like you anyway and have another reason.
A seasoned friend explained it this way:
Didn’t you know? During the hunting season, a marriage is on hold. The husband has to go hunting. (Women also go hunting here).
Whether it’s because people are used to living by the whim of the weather gods, or there is a relatively short sailing season in the North Atlantic, loose agreements is in the culture of the place.
Sometimes people will prepare you:
Let’s do brunch on the weekend – unless it’s really good weather, then we might go sailing.
Or just be non-committal.
Let’s do a ‘halv-aftale’.
(A half-agreement meaning that if everything works out, we’re going to meet. If not, ajungilak, no worries).
Other times everything gets cancelled at the last moment:
Sorry it’s really good weather so we’re going sailing.
Sorry my (so-and-so family member) just got back from hunting so I have to work with the meat tonight.
(Meaning after having shot the reindeer, gutted it, lugged it back to the boat, sailed it home, they have to prepare the meat so that it is ready for freezing. This can take a few hours!)
Finally, you learn to turn it to your advantage:
Sorry I got invited to go __________ so I can’t make it to dinner.
You start getting used to the way it is around here, and might even begin to think it’s weird that someone rejects a trip offer because they only had a dinner date organised…. =)
How life has changed. These days, I don’t really make plans until a few days before or on the day. Back in my other home, some of my best friends were always so busy that I had to book them two or three weeks in advance. My friends also lived all over the metropolis too, so it was almost impossible to just turn up at their door. So life required that we planned more.
On the flip side, sometimes people break dates because of the weather and no one is happy. For example, if someone misses a flight because of bad weather. In turn, people learn to deal with things not turning out the way one expects! They deal with uncertainty better.
Would you be okay with breaking dates for something better? Or do you like living life more spontaneously?